Should i go out of stateAnswered
so i live in a very boring very sheltered state and I've dreamed of going out of state (somewhere like Oregon, West Virginia, Wyoming, Georgia) but my family keeps advising me to stay in state for cheaper tuition, closer to home in case of an emergency, etc etc. but I know that I have very good chances at getting into the colleges I wanna go to but at the same time what if my family's right. I just wanna get out and see more and be on my own and start over but I don't know if I should or not
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It seems like you want to go out of state and explore the world on your own. While it's important to include your family on your college decision, the choice is ultimately up to you. I would advise sitting down with your family and explaining to them why you want to attend school out of state. Maybe compromise with them by adding a few schools that are closer to where you live. Make sure to explain that your college choice isn't about getting away from your family, but rather attending a school that is the perfect fit for you. Hopefully this helps.
I think it depends on what you want to study in college. Part of college is finding yourself which I think can be more difficult if you stay in-state because you always have the safety net of your family, but when you factor in the cost and the rest of your needs/wants for the school you want to attend it might not be worth going out of state. If you're looking to reinvent yourself and experience a brand-new atmosphere I recommend at least applying to out-of-state schools. But if theirs a school in-state that meets your academic needs/wants I think you should give it a try.
I would start with a self-reflection:
- Have I ever been apart for my family and out of state? Did I feel homesick, or was I fine?
- Is my family situation stable? Is there an individual in the house who requires extra attention (elderly, infant, sick) that may change the family dynamics in the event of an emergency?
Once you've tried answering these questions, consider the following. Many students get overwhelmed or sick during their first year at school due to stress, and may find themselves missing home more than ever. (Of course, I don't know your family situation, but it is something to consider) Compromise with your family by applying to some schools a couple of hours away along with some farther schools. I know you may need your space; a school 3 hours away can be a lot farther than it seems - your family won't be visiting you everyday, that's for sure.
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